Dilators

Dilators are progressive-size tools that gradually stretch the vagina or anus to increase capacity and reduce discomfort. They work by applying gentle, sustained pressure to relax muscles and expand tissue over time. People use dilators to recover after childbirth, manage vaginismus (involuntary vaginal muscle tightening), prepare for penetrative sex, or simply increase comfort during intercourse.

Why Choose Dilators

1. Reduce Pain During Sex: Gradual stretching relaxes the muscles and tissues that tighten involuntarily, allowing comfortable penetration. Regular use decreases pain signals the brain sends during intercourse.
2. Recover After Childbirth: The vagina needs time to regain elasticity and strength after birth. Dilators help restore comfort and normal tissue function without forcing the process.
3. Build Confidence: Progressive sizing lets you control the pace. Starting small and moving up at your own speed removes fear and pressure, making penetration feel manageable rather than threatening.

Types of Dilators

Vaginal Dilator Sets

These graduated sets contain 4-6 smooth cylinders increasing in diameter. Each piece sits inside the vagina for 10-15 minutes daily, gently stretching tissue. Women with vaginismus, post-childbirth recovery, or pain during sex use these to rebuild comfort. Available in silicone, glass, or stainless steel. Browse our full range of internal toys and dilators.

Anal Dilator Sets

Similar to vaginal sets but designed specifically for anal use. The anus has different tissue than the vagina and benefits from slower, more gradual stretching. These prepare for anal play or address tightness from tension. Usually shorter and wider than vaginal dilators, with larger handles for easier removal.

Single Large Dilators

Standalone dilators in larger sizes for users already accustomed to stretching or needing to maintain capacity. These provide sustained pressure without progression through multiple sizes. Popular for ongoing maintenance rather than initial treatment.

Vibrating Dilators

Dilators with vibration motors that add gentle stimulation while stretching. The vibration relaxes surrounding muscles and increases blood flow to tissues, reducing tension. Some women find vibration helps them relax enough to accept deeper stretch.

Dilator Selection Guide

Who Buys Dilators

Women with vaginismus: Involuntary muscle tightening makes penetration painful or impossible. Dilators work by gradually desensitising the muscles and tissues, allowing them to relax enough for comfortable sex. Therapists often recommend dilators as the first treatment step.

People recovering from childbirth: Vaginal tissue stretches during labour and needs time to regain elasticity. Some women experience ongoing tightness, pain, or reduced sensation. Dilators help rebuild comfort and normal function at a pace that feels safe.

Choosing Dilators

• Material Matters for Cleaning: Silicone absorbs bacteria and requires hot water or sterilising. Glass and stainless steel are non-porous and dishwasher safe. Choose based on how thorough your cleaning routine can be.
• Handle Design Affects Control: A good handle sits outside the body while the dilator works inside. Bulbous handles prevent accidental insertion. Thin handles let you position the dilator precisely.
• Graduated Sizing Should Be Incremental: Each size jump should feel like a small step up, not a dramatic jump. Sets with 5-6 pieces provide smoother progression than 3-4 piece sets.
• Texture Affects Comfort: Smooth, polished surfaces slide easily and feel less intimidating. Some textured dilators provide grip, but they're harder to insert for beginners.
• Weight and Temperature Influence Sensation: Stainless steel and glass feel cool and heavy, which some users find grounding. Silicone is body-temperature and lighter. Cold sensation can help relax muscles for some people.

Looking After Your Dilators

Silicone dilators should be washed with warm soapy water or placed in boiling water for 5 minutes. Glass and stainless steel are dishwasher safe for easy sterilising. Store in a clean, dry pouch or container away from direct sunlight — silicone can degrade with UV exposure. Use water-based lubricant with all dilator materials; oil-based lubes can damage silicone. Check silicone dilators monthly for tears or degradation, and replace if damaged.

Goes Well With

Vibrators

After using dilators to build capacity, vibrators provide pleasurable stimulation. Many people use a dilator first to relax tissues, then switch to a vibrator for sensation. Explore vibrators that complement your stretching progress.

Read Up

New to dilators? Learn proper insertion technique, optimal duration, lubrication choice, and what to expect during your first weeks. Our dilator guide covers the complete process.

Shop Dilators

Our dilator range includes graduated vaginal and anal sets in silicone, glass, and stainless steel. Single larger dilators available for maintenance use. Vibrating options add muscle-relaxing stimulation. Discreet delivery Australia-wide, plain packaging on all orders.